10 Reasons Capricorns Make The Best Friends.

You can make friends with every star sign, but some signs are just naturals at having friends from every walk of life. Capricorn is the star sign that is most commonly associated with being a great friend. If you’re lucky enough to have a Capricorn bestie, or if you’re a Capricorn yourself, you already know this to be true. Here’s why everyone should be happy to have a Goat as their best buddy, and why Capricorns should be proud of their friendship awesomeness.

1. THEY’RE BRUTALLY HONEST IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE. It takes a very strong character to actively tell you when you’re not looking your best. Capricorns won’t lie to you or let you act a fool. Instead, their naturally tactful way of approaching things lets you get the reality check you need — often when no one else will be brave enough to tell you what’s up.

2. THEY ARE FRIENDS FOR LIFE. Other star signs might end up fading out after a couple of years, but not Capricorn. These super loyal best buds are famous for being friends for life, and will do anything to make sure they stay in your life.

3. DID I MENTION THAT THEY’RE LOYAL? If people badmouth you behind your back, they better not do it in front of your Capricorn bestie. Capricorns have no problem standing up for people they care about, whether or not that person is in the room with them at that moment. In fact, some might even say they’re loyal to the point of being stubborn about whose sides they pick.

4. THEY CAN OFFER YOU PRACTICAL ADVICE, ANY TIME, ON ANY SUBJECT. Everyone needs that one friend who can offer good, down-to-earth advice on things such as career, finance, and safety. The best part about having a Capricorn buddy is that they are always willing to help you learn a new skill, a new practice, or a quick lifehack in order to make your life easier. Needless to say, most Capricorns are the “go-to” people in their groups for advice.

5. CAPRICORNS WILL HELP YOU CLEAN UP AFTER A MAJOR PARTY. Everyone always wants to go to the next big banger, but no one wants to help clean after all the fun has been had. Well, no one but Capricorn, anyway. Capricorns can’t stand messes, and are more than happy to help lend a hand to those who need help tidying up.

6. GOATS HAVE THE BEST SENSE OF HUMOR. Whether it’s a dry wit, a dark humor streak, or a random fart joke, Capricorns are often known as being the funniest people in any clique. When you’re down in the dumps, you can expect the Capricorn in your life to make you chuckle. It’s often the way they help console a friend going through tough times.

7. CAPRICORNS ALSO TEND TO BE PRETTY NURTURING FRIENDS. If you’re friends with a female Capricorn, you probably have jokingly called her “Mom” at one point or another. Even so, having that responsible, mature, yet still doting friend in your life can be a good thing for you. After all, Capricorns treat friends as family, and a good family is hard to come by these days.

8. IF YOU’VE BECOME PART OF A GOAT’S INNER CIRCLE, YOU CAN EXPECT THEM TO GO TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH FOR YOU. If you find yourself to be in a bad situation, Capricorns will be the first ones there on the scene. This star sign is the one that is most commonly known for being hyper generous to those who they befriend. At times, Capricorn’s desire to protect and help their friends can even go overboard. Even so, it’s better to have to reel someone in than to deal with having no one in your corner.

9. IF YOU NEED FASHION ADVICE, A CAPRICORN IS YOUR BEST BET. Who has ever seen a Goat with a bad looking coat? No one! Capricorn’s uniquely crisp and clean sense of style never fails to flatter and impress. If you need a good outfit, then it’s a Capricorn’s help you need. Capricorns are also the best people to call when you need an emergency makeover, too.
10. LASTLY, CAPRICORNS ALWAYS SEEM TO BE PART OF THE COOL CROWD. They seem to know all the right people, learn about the coolest parties, and always seem to be the ringleaders of the most tight knit groups of friends. Who doesn’t like chillin’ out with a cool Capricorn?..

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5 Things To Be Passionate About Right As You Search For Your Life Passion.

1. Health and Fitness

If you’ve been feeling passionless and frustrated, you’re probably neglecting your physical well-being. This tends to happen when we’re unhappy, but actually, it’s the perfect time to reignite your commitment to health and fitness.

Find an interesting fitness routine that includes aerobic activity. I took up rebounding because I’d read so much about the health benefits of it and it looked so fun. My rebounding commitment that I practiced during the cold months led to a new passion for running which I took up when it got warmer.

Even if you have an established routine, change it up with something new. Take up a sport or activity where you can meet new people who are doing interesting things. Research new healthy recipes and start cooking them. Join an online community where you share health and fitness goals and support one another.

How it helps your passion search: When you feel great physically, it will undoubtedly help you feel better mentally and emotionally. You’ll be in the right frame of mind to discover your passion. As you explore new health and fitness opportunities, you may meet someone, encounter something, or realize something about yourself that leads to a passion, as rebounding did for me.

2. Relationship Health

When we’re preoccupied with something that’s not going right in our lives, our relationships can suffer. We might become inattentive and distant with those we love. A negative attitude can undermine the joy and spontaneity in the relationship. Sometimes the people close to us begin to pull away because of the negative energy we’re putting out.

Your close relationships are THE most valuable part of your life. As you search for your passion, take time to focus on the health of your most important relationships. If there are problems in a relationship, take the initiative to address them and work them out.

Be proactive in expressing your gratitude and feelings to your loved ones. Think about what brings them joy, and make that happen for them. Explore new and fun activities to enjoy together. Lovingly tend to your most valued relationships as you would a prized garden.

How it helps your passion search: The important people in your life will ultimately share in your life passion when you find it. You want and need their support, patience, and engagement. They may have input and ideas that can give you insights about yourself and your passion. More importantly, having healthy, happy relationships is essential to your own well-being. If your relationships are going poorly, you won’t be emotionally healthy enough to find your passion.

3. Learning

While you are seeking your passion, find something mildly interesting and begin learning everything you can about it. It can be a useful skill (like learning a new language, creating a website, or investing) or simply an enjoyable activity that involves research and learning (like bird watching, uncovering your family tree, or drawing).

Whatever peaks your interest, whether or not you believe it will be your passion, immerse yourself in it. Become more skilled or knowledgeable, practice regularly, and take pleasure in the process of learning.

Read Related: Finding Your Life Passion With Something You Hate

How it helps your passion search: As you become deeply engaged in this new activity, it may very well reveal itself to be your passion or lead you to a passion. Even if it doesn’t, it will expose you to new and interesting ideas, people, and knowledge. You’ll see that the process of engagement is a passionate activity itself. This expands you as a person, opening your mind to possibilities and insights you didn’t possess before.

4. Money Management

As you work toward discovering your life passion, prepare you

rself financially for building your life around the passion you ultimately discover. If you are in debt, this is a perfect time to work on paying off your debt. Brainstorm ways to cut back on spending and to make extra income on the side. If you need some ideas, check out the book The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by finance guru Dave Ramsey.

Consider your philosophy around money and spending. How much money do you really need to live the life you want? How much savings do you need for a possible job transition or time off? What do you need to learn about investing and growing your money? How are you spending money unconsciously?

How it helps your passion search: Solid financial preparation will be a huge benefit to you when you know your passion and you’re ready to pursue it. You’ll be in a great position to make the necessary life changes that might be required of making your passion part of your life. As you’re searching now, just knowing you’re in a financially sound position reduces the fear and doubt inhibiting you from finding your passion.

5. Simplifying

Look around you at all of the nonessential “stuff” in your life — like material possessions, clutter, demands on your time and energy, draining people, or tolerations that distract you. Get passionate about decluttering your life and simplifying it to the most important and valuable elements.

If you have material things you never use or that take up your time and energy with cleaning, care, and repair — sell them or give them away. Clean out your closets, clear off your desk, clean up your inbox on your computer. If you need help, check out my book with my co-author Steve Scott called, 10-Minute Declutter: The Stress-Free Habit for Simplifying Your Home.

If you fill your time with activities or commitments you don’t enjoy or that make you feel stressed, start eliminating them. Are there people in your life who are negative, demanding, or otherwise difficult to be around? If so, let them go or cut back on the time you spend with them.

How it helps your passion search: More time, energy, and space frees you from distractions that pull you away from your passion search. It also frees up room for your passion, and eliminates the doubt and worry that you might not have time to find or live your passion. By eliminating what isn’t productive, useful, or necessary, it creates room for what is.

Surprisingly, it’s when we are engaged in something else that our passion often makes itself known to us — or at least provides clues to lead us to it. As you search for your life passion, make good use of your time by becoming passionate in these activities that support your search.

Stay informed.

@mactheoffical.

5 Strategy To Keep Your Sanity As An Entrepreneur

As an entrepreneur, you already know how easy it is to drive yourself crazy. You have to juggle multiple roles and tend to millions of tasks. You live in ambiguity, unable to predict when and where your ideas will pick up and turn into sustainable businesses. You keep questioning the value of what you offer. You have to embrace negative feedback and pretend it doesn’t bring you down. You are constantly faced with small failures. Funding doesn’t come through, prospective clients don’t call back, focus groups aren’t receptive to concepts and family vacations have to be canceled.

And while failure is an integral part of success, dealing with mistakes, complaints and rejection on a regular basis could make even the strongest self-esteem crumble. Especially when self-esteem becomes synonymous with being successful.

Entrepreneurs make huge emotional investments in their ideas. They become one with their concepts, their services and their products. Their business becomes their identity. Any loss or failure is no longer just about time and money. It is about self-worth.

And that kind of investment can be a slippery slope. The multiple demands, the relentless ambiguity and the unforeseen failures can have a detrimental effect on your mental health. Research shows that entrepreneurs are prone to several mental health issues, including: depression, anxiety, hypomania, bipolar disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

One out of five people each year are diagnosed with a mental disorder. How will you make sure that this year you will not become part of this grim statistic? Below are the most effective strategies to protect your most valuable asset: your mental health.

1. Mind your body.

The first step to guarding your mental health is to take care of your body. The mind-body connection is strong and reciprocal. Your physical state affects your psychological state. When you have a nasty cold, you feel unmotivated, distracted and irritable. Similarly, your own thoughts and emotions can have an impact on your physical well-being. When you are worried about making payroll at the end of the month, you may start getting severe tension headaches. Body functions known to contribute to a healthy mind include the quality of your sleep, your level of physical activity and your nutrition. All of which will have different effects on your mood, your motivation and your cognitive performance.

2. Leverage your emotions.

Emotions are not signs of weakness to be eradicated. They are indispensable, internal signals created to keep you in line with your goals. They are your evolutionary allies in your quest for success. Emotions such as: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, and anxiety are non-verbal, non-cognitive ways of assessing the environment for risk, tracking progress toward a goal and evaluating the outcomes of your actions. Learning to interpret them can protect you from stress, boost your motivation and keep you more focused. Ignore them, and you have lost a valuable resource.

3. Examine your self-talk.

Self-talk is what you tell yourself in the privacy of your own head. It is the sub-vocal speech you use to operate day to day. You use it to keep yourself in check, to make decisions and to judge yourself and others. When the content of your self-talk is filled with messages about how you don’t have what it takes, how no one cares about what you have to say and how difficult it is to have the life you want, your motivation will shrink, your creativity will dry up and your mood will deteriorate to alarming levels. Be mindful of what you tell yourself about yourself. If it’s not helping you solve problems and make progress, change your tune.

4. Foster connections.

The stress and isolation that mark the entrepreneur’s life can easily turn to serious mental torment. When you are so immersed in the life of your business, it is easy to neglect your own social life. Social support is one of the most effective natural buffers against depression and anxiety. Surrounding yourself with people who can understand what you are going through and respect your work and ambition is paramount. Having frequent contact with people you can trust and rely on provides a strong antibiotic against emotional distress.

5. Seek professional help.

Entrepreneurs are used to solving problems on their own. When it comes to mental health, however, it may be wise to get an opinion from the experts. Therapy is a good option if you are looking to expand your self-awareness, gain a different perspective and share your “craziest” ideas without worrying about being judged.

But in some cases, therapy becomes a necessary option. For example, when you can’t fall asleep at night because your head is pulsating with worrying thoughts about the future of your business. When you can’t get out of bed in the morning because you feel unable to deal with the world. When you can’t get any work done, you miss deadlines, or you have to often have to apologize for being behind schedule. And definitely when you start thinking that the world would be a better place without you in it.

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Neuropsychologist, Speaker and Author

11 Simple Ways To Stop Overthinking Everything And Take Control Of Your Life.

As human beings, we are very good at solving problems with few variables. Basic tasks like doing laundry, preparing a meal or driving to the store are examples of this. We are also very good at solving problems with countless variables. Complex music, intricate works of art, architecture .
However, we are poor at solving problems with anything in between. For example, most of us struggle to solve a problem with more than three variables without a pencil in our hand!
This is where much of the angst of an overactive mind arises. Our minds work extra hard to try to solve a problem with many different variables, that is sufficiently complex to be confusing and frustrating, but not so utterly complex as to allow our minds to tap into our full creative potential.
In the business world, the term analysis paralysis is used to describe this tendency to overthink things. In our everyday lives, it’s witnessed as mental tension, stress, and laziness.
At a basic level, overthinking everything is unpleasant and keeps you from moving forward and making progress. At an extreme level, overthinking utterly and completely shuts you down and causes severe anxiety.
It is super important to understand that if you have a tendency to overthink things, you are simply being human. There is nothing wrong with it. We are hard-wired to constantly seek solutions to problems. We also must understand that we can use our own intellect and mental function to identify when we are “spinning our mental wheels” in vain and get out of this thought pattern.
There are tangible and simple ways to stop overthinking everything. Review the list below and the next time you find yourself caught up in your thoughts, apply just one of the techniques below to free yourself from the chains of overthinking. You are bound to find relief from stress and just might discover a creative solution to your problem in the process.

1) Let go of the results
An underpinning of a spiritual text that has greatly impacted my life, The Bhagavad Gita, is that we can find happiness and live our duty (“dharma”) in life by focusing solely on our required labor, not on the fruits of our labor.
Focusing on results can create stress based upon the uncertainty of the outcome. On the other hand, focusing on our work instantly puts us in the realm of something we can control. The result is less mental tension and improved ability to work through complex problems.

2) Cultivate positive emotions

Overthinking and the negative emotions that result from it can be hard to neutralize. A while ago I witnessed this first hand, as I struggled to cope with the loss of my beloved dog and best friend, Spike. After he passed, I was in pain for many days. I felt broken inside and my mind was spinning, thinking of all the things I could have done to have kept him healthy longer.
Speaking with my mom, she told me something that completely changed how I felt. She reminded me that as I am grieving, I cannot forget that there is someone else in my life that needs my care and attention.
You see, I have another dog, Duke, who was also surely missing his big brother, but couldn’t express his sadness the way humans do. I focused my attention on making sure Duke got plenty of love. Whenever I felt sad about Spike and witnessed my mind racing and overthinking his passing, I shifted my focus to Duke. I focused on giving him all the care in the world. With that shift in focus, my grief lifted and my mind stopped overthinking and feeling guilty about doing more to take care of his health earlier in his life. I was able to think clearly and find peace.

3) Mindfully complete simple tasks
When I am in the middle of complex tasks and find myself overthinking things, I often shift to small and simple tasks that require less mental horsepower. For example, I will do the laundry, mow the lawn, pay some bills, walk my dog.
Doing a bunch of simple tasks gives me a feeling of success. I feel like I’ve accomplished something. It also teaches my brain to solve and finish problems. When I return to the complex task (e.g. creating a presentation, preparing for a coaching client meeting or writing on this blog), I find that I am able to stay focused without any mental stress. My brain is primed and ready to finish the task, complex or not!

4) Meditate

There are so many reasons why you should meditate. Below are just a few of the scientifically proven benefits:
Decreased anxiety
Decreased depression
Increased pain tolerance
Increased memory and learning capacity
Increased self-awareness
Better capacity to set goals
More pronounced empathy
Higher “alpha” waves — resulting in less tension, sadness, anger
Decreased blood pressure
Increased oxygen and CO2 processing capacity
Better immune system function
Cellular and DNA protection
Potential anti-cancer, anti-diabetes, anti-heart disease benefits
Sitting to meditate for even 10 minutes will stop overthinking in its tracks. Meditation is like a mirror that lets you look deep down into who you are and how things are going. With even a short meditation session you can witness the overthinking mind. With this awareness, any negativity associated with it will drop away.
If you don’t know how to meditate, no worries,

5) Consciously overthink things
This is a technique that I learned from Tony Robbins. It is used to break up old mental patterns and replace them with new and empowering ones. In my application of the technique, I simplify things to just allow you to see the humor in overthinking everything. You see, it is when we are calm and at peace (on the inside, I’m talking about mental state not physical state) that we are able to tap into our greatest inner genius.
Let’s say you are trying to prepare a presentation and getting caught up in how to lay out your slides and what stories to tell for maximum impact. Take a few minutes to consciously and proactively overthink the scenario. What are all the ways you could arrange your slides? What are all the different stories you could tell? What are all the different things you could be doing right now to keep yourself from focusing on building your presentation? What are all the different objections that people in your audience could have for you?
Really go overboard with this. Find the humor in it. Imagine yourself with 10 arms, all flailing around creating thousands of slides to cover all the bases. Imagine you are typing so fast the keyboard is smoking and about to light on fire! Really make the scene ridiculous in your mind’s eye.
Now, take a deep breath and look at your presentation. Realize that overthinking doesn’t help you get your work done. It just stands in your way.
Now imagine yourself methodically and deliberately creating your presentation. Imagine yourself just doing your work and not worrying about the result, one step at a time.
Go back to your presentation, and start working with a renewed sense of focus and a calm mind.

6) Get some exercise
Exercise, like sleep, is like pushing the reboot button on your mind. You cannot go out for a run (or yoga or skateboard or whatever exercise you like) and not come back to your work in a different state of mind. I find that many times, my overthinking tendency is worst when I have tons of energy that I haven’t burned off.
Get outside for some exercise and you will find that mental tension and overthinking is no longer an issue when you return home.

7) Breathe calmly (Pranayma)
The tone and tenor of your breathing is a direct representation of your mental state. Don’t believe me? Go ahead and take 5 deep breaths in and out through your nose. You will notice a difference in how you think and feel, guaranteed.
Yogis have known this secret for years, and it is why Pranayama has been a long-standing practice and pre-requisite for those wishing to explore higher states of consciousness. It is just as important as physical exercise and mental-meditation.
A particularly powerful technique is called Nadi Shodhana. Practice it for a few minutes and your mind will laser-focused, like the Death Star, but in a good way

8) Practice fixing your gaze on one point
Just like the breath, the eyes say a lot about the state of your mind (and some believe, your soul itself!). Many yogis deep in their spiritual work will avoid eye contact for this very reason, it is a gateway to your inner being.
Whether you believe this or not, it is widely understood that just like the eyes and their erratic movement indicates overactivity in the mind, that fixing your gaze (without staring!) can in turn provide a calming and focusing effect on the mind!
To reduce overthinking and calm yourself down, practice gazing at one fixed point for a few minutes. I prefer to do this exercise in nature. I look at a tree, a patch of grass, a cloud, or even an animal (like my dog, Duke when he sleeping!).
Take notice that you are not straining your eyes. Blink normally and keep a calm and relaxed gaze. The calmer your eyes become, the calmer (and focused!) your mind will become!

9) Write out your thoughts
Have you heard of “Morning Pages”. This is a practice of writing three pages, completely unfiltered, each and every morning. Popularized by Julia Cameron, she calls Morning Pages “the bedrock of creative recovery”:
Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages — they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page…and then do three more pages tomorrow.
I find that writing out thoughts, at any time of day, can unload the overthinking mind and help with focus and stress relief. What’s cool about building up a habit of writing in the morning is that is can pre-empt the overthinking mind from ever rearing its ugly head later in the day!

10) Take a nap
Naps are underrated! Just like exercise, a 20-minute nap works wonders. I like to take my naps in the afternoon, around 3 pm, after going for a run and drinking a healthy smoothie. I don’t need to say much more about naps, just give it a try!

11) Change your environment
It is said that Albert Einstein, in struggling to formulate his theory of relativity, achieved his biggest breakthrough while taking a break from working on his problem to relax by a fire and daydream.
Changes of environment can work wonders to encourage new ways of thinking. Just like when you try to look at the night-time stars in the sky, they disappear when looked at directly, but emerge when seen from peripheral vision — you can find creative solutions when you allow yourself to examine problems indirectly.
If you find yourself overthinking, change your environment. Go to a coffee shop, park or library. Switch from using a computer to pencil and paper. Surround yourself with different people and talk about new things. Stop actively working on the problem and just daydream.
These 11 simple ways to stop overthinking are powerful in their simplicity.
Apply one of them (or several if you like) next time you find yourself caught up in your thoughts. You are bound to find relief from your mental strain and might even discover a creative solution to your problem in the process.
Have an idea for another way to stop overthinking everything? Let me know in the comments!
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Ravi Raman
Medium member since Mar 2017
http://RaviRaman.com . Former Director @ Microsoft. Now an Exec/Career Coach, Yogi + Ultrarunner. ravi [at] ramancoaching.com

How To Understand Art In 6 Easy Step..

Human beings have been making and benefiting from art for longer than our recorded history. While contemporary art might seem exclusive or confusing, all viewers have to do is meet the artist halfway. Here are six easy steps to help you appreciate art.

1. Stop Trying to “Get It.”
Art isn’t a knock-knock joke, and squinting at an exhibit isn’t going to elicit a punch line. Everyone — artists and viewers alike — will have a unique experience. As in the rest of life, there will be times when you can’t relate to the artist, or even understand where they’re coming from. Accept that, and move on. Don’t write off art, an entire genre, or even a particular work just because it doesn’t agree with you at the moment. As you go through life, your tastes will change. You’ve had adverse reactions to tequila and yoga, did you give up on those, too?

2. Don’t Be Afraid To Like Something.
The best way to see art is to see it alone. Don’t be swayed by your peers or even your teachers. Remember that your unique experiences leading up to the moment you encounter a work of art will shape your appreciation of it, as will all the experiences that follow. Like what you like, even if you’re not sure why, or can’t put the reason to words.

3. Consider More Things As Art.
Anything within the context of art is art. It might make you roll your eyes to think about a highly paid artist flinging paint at a canvas like a toddler. But much as John Cage taught us the difference between noise and sound, seeing art that you disagree with can challenge your notions, or help you suss out your beliefs.

4. Trust Your Instincts.

Creativity is one of the many benefits of human intelligence. Our ability to make art and think critically about it separate us from dolphins and monkeys. I don’t care what you majored in, or how your figure drawings (or stick figures) always come out. Every human being has artistic ability. Trust in this.

5. Make a Connection.

Once you’re comfortable with allowing yourself to feel something about art, take it to the next level. Try to go beyond considering whether art is cool or offensive, and find a personal connection to the work. Even if you’re relating art to something as simple what you ate for breakfast, it’s a step in the right direction.

6. Make Your Own Art.

Assuming you have the aforementioned human intelligence, then you also have artistic ability. Anything that you consider to be art will be. Walk backward through a crosswalk. Take a photo. Instagram it. Experiment. Cook an amazing meal (bonus points if you don’t look at a recipe). I guarantee you’ll feel better about art after exercising your right to create.

Source: amp/s/m.mic.com/articles/amp/65509/how-to-understand-art-in-6-easy-steps

Art by : @claireidera.

How Music Affect Your Productivity.

You might be rocking headphones while you read this–but does what’s playing make you better at your job?

Music has a way of expressing that which cannot be put into words.

It is for this reason (and many more) that music is regarded as one of the triumphs of human creativity–but does music itself help one to create?

This is an important question to examine, because music has increasingly become apart of the modern-day work session.

The soldiers of yore may have faced insurmountable odds to the sound of trumpets, but we desk jockeys are typically left to fend off our piling inboxes with nothing more than iTunes.

With so much of our work now being done at computers, music has become an important way to “optimize the boring.”

Though it may be a fine way to avoid habituation, the question remains: does music actually make you more productive? More focused? More creative? Or is all that a placebo?

People like me need to know. For nearly all of my work sessions, I have music playing in the background. I once wrote 10,529 words on customer loyalty (how exciting) listening to nothing other than the SimCity 2000 soundtrack–and yes, more on that later.

1. MUSIC MAY HELP MAKE REPETITIVE TASKS EASIER
When evaluating music’s effectiveness in increasing productive output, one element to consider how “immersive” the task at hand is.

This refers to the variability and creative demand of the task–writing a brand new essay from scratch is synthesis work that demands a lot of creativity; answering your emails is mundane work that does not.

When the task is clearly defined and is repetitive in nature, the research seems to suggest that music is definitely useful.

A series of experiments has investigated the relationship between the playing of background music during the performance of repetitive work and efficiency in performing such a task. The results give strong support to the contention that economic benefits can accure from the use of music in industry.

More modern studies would argue that it perhaps isn’t the background noise of the music itself, but rather the improved mood that your favorite music creates that is the source of this bump in productivity.

Music with a dissonant tone was found to have no impact to productivity, while music in the major mode had different results: “Subjects hearing BGM (background music) achieved greater productivity when BGM was in the major mode.”

The effects music can have in relation to repetitive tasks were further explored in this study, which showcased how assembly line workers displayed signs of increased happiness and efficiency while listening to music.

2. IN A NOISY WORKPLACE, MUSIC MAY BE AN ESCAPE
Despite the somewhat variable effects of music on the individual, one thing is definitely clear: A noisy workplace can end up halting productivity in its tracks.

Perhaps a pair of headphones may not be as distracting as some bosses tend to think:

Dr. Lesiuk’s research focuses on how music affects workplace performance. In one study involving information technology specialists, she found that those who listened to music completed their tasks more quickly and came up with better ideas than those who didn’t, because the music improved their mood.

Again we see that mood is the main argument made.

The idea that headphones might beat out the constant yapping of your office co-workers has caused somewhat of a debate due to the rising popularity of open offices.

While the open space may encourage more collaboration, the chatter can be too much for some people to handle–I know that when I’ve worked in an open workspace, I couldn’t focus on writing without my headphones.

3. MUSIC SEEMS TO INTERFERE WITH LEARNING
When it comes to absorbing and retaining new information, distraction in any form is a huge no-no.

According to this research, music is no exception. Participants had a much more difficult time recalling a complex task when they had listened to music.

Music demands too much of your attention–even when the sounds are subtle–to be listened to when you are trying to learn or analyze new information.

Imagine trying to “read above your level,” or reading material that is outside your expertise, while being pulled away by the sound of music. It makes an already difficult task nearly impossible.

4. AMBIENT NOISE MAY BE THE CREATIVE SWEET SPOT
For those that do benefit in listening to music during creative sessions, an “ambient” presence of music appears to work best.

Researchers have shown that a moderate noise level can really get creative juices flowing, but that too much noise has the opposite effect.

This would imply that music with especially low-lows or especially high-highs should be avoided.

Deep basses and screeching synths might get you energized, but when listening and engaging in deep work, favor a more mellow sound.

5. LYRICS CAN BE VERY DISTRACTING
For those low-immersion activities I mentioned above, music with lyrics can offer huge benefits. As an example, studies clearly show that listening to music can help us with intense exercise (anyone who’s ever been inside a gym could tell you that!)

But with immersive tasks, lyrics are especially destructive to our focus.
Since listening to words activates the language center of your brain, trying to engage in other language related tasks (like writing) would be akin to trying to hold a conversation while another person talks over you… while also strumming a guitar.

Lyrics might not have the same effect for creative tasks that don’t directly deal with “verbal architecture,” such as designing. This study that looked at software developers suggested that music helped their output while working; I would still argue that for any language-based task, you should steer clear.

6. FAMILIARITY IS BEST FOR FOCUS
It may be beneficial to listen to music you are familiar with if you need to intensely focus for a project.

The reason being is that new music is surprising; since you don’t know what to expect, you are inclined to listen closely to see what comes next.

With familiar music, you know what lies ahead and thus the sound doesn’t become your primary focus.

While the “journey” of new music is certainly beneficial in other ways, you may want to tread a familiar path if you are using music to help get things done.

7. MUSIC FOR IMMERSIVE TASKS: WHAT WORKS?
Obviously “music that you like” should be given preference, but there are certain types of music that, from the research above, might be best suited to make us all more productive during immersive tasks.

I chose to look at this in particular because music for more repetitive tasks tends to be an “anything goes” situation: if Metallica helps you get through your inbox, turn it up until your neighbors complain.

In addition, most people tend to have a fairly wide range of music interests, so coming across or utilizing a certain type of music just for work isn’t out of the question–they needn’t always rely on what’s currently on their iPod.

Below, in order to introduce you, I’ll list the type of music, why it may be useful for you, and I’ll try to include some links on where you can find more.

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CLASSICAL MUSIC (BAROQUE)
Why it works

Lacking in lyrics and often considered to be the apex of the craft, classical music is a popular choice for getting things done.

One study in particular made it very clear that Baroque-period tunes appear to have a measurable impact on productivity. The study only had 8 radiologists as subjects, however all but one reported that the classical music had a notable improvement on their concentration.

Noting what we’ve discussed above, not all classical music is created equal here–the dramatic twists and turns of “Toccata & Fugue in D minor” might not be as appropriate as the more delicate sounds of “Für Elise.”

ELECTRONIC MUSIC

Why it works
In electronic music, “ambient electronica”–and its sub-genres of chillout, downtempo, ambient house, and far too many others–all tend to fit our need for ‘present but unobtrusive.’

This genre also tends to be repetitive, in a good way.

Unlike all of the ups and downs of a symphonic piece, there are quite a few producers out there who aim to create ‘soundscapes’ (anyone remember Gabe from The Office?) that focus on a few melodies that repeat and build on each other.

The song’s focus will help your focus, as the repeating tones are nice to have going in the background.

EVERYTHING ELSE

Why it works

There isn’t really a genre I could list here, given that anything else that may be “low key” could be a good potential playlist for the right people.

If vocals don’t bug you that much during work, give them a go

Jazz, hip-hop, indie rock, blues, and everything under the sun are really up for grabs here, but remember that “ambient” is the word of the day for a productive session with music playing, at least if you’re engaged in deep work.

This article originally appeared onSparring Mind and is reprinted with permission.

Thank you…….

10 Ways To Make Your Relationship Last.

Fall in love with your significant other again and again with these expert tips

Love that lasts is the result of partners embedding themselves in each other’s brains in a positive way. Memory circuits and pleasure get all wound up together so that the other person becomes integral to the very structure of your brain, and you become part of the structure of his.

Here are some steps toward making your love last:

1. Take your partner’s breath away. Do something amazingly thoughtful and out of the ordinary and try to incorporate an element of surprise to it: a loving note tucked into a pocket. A special dinner on an otherwise ordinary night. A playlist made up with his favorite songs. These thoughtful acts will embed you in his memory.

2. Do something special on a regular basis. Call him every day just to touch base for a few minutes. Make his favorite meal once a week. Once he begins to expect these things, you will always be close to his awareness.

3. Engage in lots of eye gazing. New couples seem to do this naturally, but don’t drop this strong bonding behavior just because the relationship has progressed. This is one way to keep the romance alive and is especially powerful when making love.

4. Learn what pleases your partner sexually. Make it clear that his pleasure is your pleasure, and you want to discover everything about what turns him on. He’ll be happy to have you experiment with him.

5. Teach your partner what you like. Likewise, making you happy will make him feel good. And research shows that the sexual pleasure of one partner increases the pleasure of the other partner.

6. Boost lasting love with sexual novelty. When things get humdrum and routine, there is not going to be as much of a hormonal/neurotransmitter reaction, and arousal is lessened. While you don’t have to break out the whips and chains, a little novelty can increase anticipation, which means that more hormones are secreted. The result? Hotter, more thrilling sex for both of you.

7. Do something edgy. If you get your partner’s heart rate up, he may associate the feeling of excitement with you and he may develop more powerful feelings for you. Going on a roller-coaster ride, taking a balloon trip, shooting the rapids—anything with a touch of danger to it—can make him fall more deeply in love with you.

8. Do something great for someone your partner loves. If you show kindness and love for someone he loves, you will earn major points. When you enter a relationship, you also enter a relationship with all his family and friends. Show him that the people who are important to him are important to you.

9. Summarize and immortalize loving moments. Don’t be afraid to give voice to your love. Tell him how you feel. Write a loving note or poem. Lovers have been doing this from the beginning of time because it works.

10. Boost the chemicals of love. There are many brain chemicals that go into the feeling of love and attachment. Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and cuddle hormone. Oxytocin is enhanced by watching romantic movies together, holding hands, cuddling, and long, loving eye contact. Women usually have more oxytocin than men, but according to one study, a man’s level of oxytocin goes up 500 percent after making love. Being too busy to make love pushes couples apart.

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